Thoughts re: Romance
When I was growing up, I read a lot of books about dating & romantic relationships. The one thing that’s stuck with me the most and that’s proved the most profitable is Eric & Leslie Lucy’s ideas on the stages of intimacy (ie, “the two shall become one”): In dating, cultivate spiritual intimacy (friendship). In engagement, cultivate emotional intimacy (romance). In marriage, culminate your relationship with physical intimacy (sex). And then continue to develop all 3 kinds of intimacy/one-ness for the rest of your life! Such a great strategy, with beautiful results! ❤️ For premarital counseling, we went through Focus on the Family’s “Ready to Wed” program. This program guides soon-to-be-wed couples through conversations about literally every part of life, which is so important when getting ready to join yourself to another person for life. This way, we entered marriage with, like, zero surprises. We knew each other very well and were best frien...