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Thoughts re: Later-life Romance

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I felt some confidence in my last post since my husband & I feel good about our marriage and also since I’ve made it longer than his first wife did - although she was a cheater, so perhaps that’s not really saying much.😉 Anyhow, I definitely don’t feel like an expert regarding later-life romance … but having seen a little of that domain, a few things do come to mind. For instance,  •.Honesty - Don’t play the field. Whereas of course we can honorably have an unlimited number of friends, please do be careful not to pursue multiple men/women at the same time. You obviously can’t marry multiple people at the same time; so why give your heart simultaneously to several people, and why ask several people to simultaneously give their hearts to you? That is defrauding. It is adultery of the heart. • Compromise - Don’t expect the other person to perfectly adapt to you and your desires. Remember s/he is already established in his/her ways. They’re not gonna make huge life-changes just becaus

Can you be too loyal to your spouse?

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https://www.linkedin.com/pulse/loyalty-very-important-relationship-wally-horton Excerpts from the article linked above: " Loyalty does not only mean physical fidelity, but it also includes emotional devotion.  Being loyal in every aspect of a couple’s life has many manifestations....  Here are some ways in which loyalty is expressed in love: * Bei ng loyal means being respectful of your partners’ weaknesses and discretely helping them compensate for those weaknesses. For example, if your mate is absent minded and loses her keys often, you may help her set a system to make it easier for her to find things and help her search, when needed, without anger or shaming.   * Being loyal means never saying anything that may shame your mate in private or public. “Well, she told someone she was sick, when she didn’t feel like entertaining.” Though this is a small offense, when it is revealed to others, it is shaming and disloyal.   *Being loyal means keeping confidences, without fail. Any i