Thoughts re: Later-life Romance

I felt some confidence in my last post since my husband & I feel good about our marriage and also since I’ve made it longer than his first wife did - although she was a cheater, so perhaps that’s not really saying much.😉

Anyhow, I definitely don’t feel like an expert regarding later-life romance … but having seen a little of that domain, a few things do come to mind. For instance, 

•.Honesty - Don’t play the field. Whereas of course we can honorably have an unlimited number of friends, please do be careful not to pursue multiple men/women at the same time. You obviously can’t marry multiple people at the same time; so why give your heart simultaneously to several people, and why ask several people to simultaneously give their hearts to you? That is defrauding. It is adultery of the heart.

• Compromise - Don’t expect the other person to perfectly adapt to you and your desires. Remember s/he is already established in his/her ways. They’re not gonna make huge life-changes just because of a whim of yours. At the same time, you will both have to adjust a little for the other person in order for the two of you to become a single unit - with two members that exist separately while also being ONE; kinda like the Trinity which though comprised of three persons is still single in essence, comprising only ONE God!

* Loyalty (ie, not gossip - being a Shem or Japheth and NOT a Ham) - Think about it: what sin offends Jesus the most? What sin is hardest for Him to forgive, maybe even impossible? The unpardonable sin is blaspheming the Holy Spirit ... or talking hatefully/disparagingly about His best Bud, perhaps? If the marriage union/bond resembles that of the Trinity, as some have suggested, then perhaps nothing should offend a loyally-loving spouse more than talking bad about her husband/his wife. And if we won't LISTEN to hateful & disparaging & gossipy words about our spouses, then of course we wouldn't SPEAK those kinds of things ourselves - right?!